- Stop communicating openly and honestly.
- Be consistently angry, selfish, rude, and abusive.
- Refuse to forgive your spouse for any offense, no matter how small.
- Stay depressed and negative as much as possible.
- Convince your spouse that your children are far more important to you than he/she is.
- Be consistently lazy and refuse to do much around the house or on your job.
- Spend money foolishly and continually run up debt.
- Give place to addictions or annoying habits and defend your right to have them.
- Don’t care about what your spouse needs sexually as long as you get what you want.
- Habitually look at explicit films, magazines, or advertising and compare your spouse to the glorified images you see there, and especially mention others whom you find more attractive.
- Allow your heart to grow hard toward your spouse and refuse to ever say “I’m sorry,” “Forgive me,” or “I forgive you.”
- Make something other than God and your spouse your top priority.
- Threaten to get a divorce every time something comes up between you and your spouse that needs to be worked out.
- Have an affair or entertain an obsession of the heart over someone other than your spouse.
- Move out of the home and don’t try to reconcile your differences.
- Give up and refuse to believe that God is a God of miracles who can restore love and hope.
Taken from “Praying Through the Deeper Issues of Marriage” by Stormie Omartian.